Friday, September 20, 2013

The Letter....

Dear Tiffany

Beautiful sweet hardworking girl. Although you think your living and may not have the time but I wanna share with you a lil insight to help you figure out some things to quiet the voice in ur head that you share only in your writing. Keep writing and singing it will be great for you to look back and say. Wow that was me! Thats what I thought or Ive been there. For your three Blessings to see in black and white just how and who you were... Trust they will ask. Talk to your parents kiss and hug them ask them to share their stories. Your Dad is a tough cookie and loves you listen to a remember his voice not long from now he will never sound as good as he did when you were 13 & he put the gold heart shaped charm  around your neck andvsaid dontvtake it if you'll lose it!!!
No matter what you think right now this is the begining of a healing process for you both. And one day it will be your job to tell his story and you'll will be proud of the man , Father, and Marine that he will forever be... He'll always be difficult and proud but he truly loves you he loves all his children and that's something you didn't know. Your mothercstrives off if the energy you provide keep supporting and loving her and thatvday you turn fifteen and she hits that switch where she hates you.... Be patient you realize whats happening and you try to do what's right it will work out! Just wait and see. Play laugh dance with your brothers and sisters this time was taken for granted and yall will be hundreds of miles apart sometimes not even speaking. These are the good old days. Don't trust boys!!! And watch out for those men who are starting to look. Ppl come in and out of your life if they were meant to be there they'll come back. You will never be taller or slimmer than you are now enjoy that! How i wish i could tell you to beg your mom to invest in equinox you wanted to but she was like what do you know about investing.  be patient all good things come to those who listen and watch. And ppl will ask you for advice one day... Keep your hair natural... Relaxes will only hurt your hair not help (personal experience)... Learn to really love you ask you where are u going? what do you want and need? Respect others respect yourself but this is your time to be selfish take it and run. You are an amazing woman who will grow be a good kind hearted and yes she's been told. She's amazing... But she wants you to knowvthat all thevhell and heartbreak the embarrassment and loneliness. Was not for nothing it taught you its ok to be alone to learn from hurt. And that disappointments and pain make you stronger. And there is another side to life if you just hold on keep Praying and dreaming... Never give up or in... Its all yours to have just Go Get It!!!!!


I always wanted to be Brave and I wanted to teach my children that being Brave and having Faith. Was the way to live, survive, and stand for something. So I asked them in what way was I brave and have I taught you to be and what ways do you believe you are brave? My daughter said. Yes... By standing up for yourself and us & not careing what others think of you... She said she was brave because i taught her to do what was right and because she can lead and be an example. My youngest son said yes because you never let anything get in your way... And im brave because im growing up and learning to be strong i don't cry as much. And I stand up for my friends and brave cause i am.
You taught me to eldest son hasn't gotten back yet but i will post his answer... I hope that im teaching them just what they said to be brave and be themselves to be true to there character and to make them proud of who they are.   My oldest son said yes your brave you were brave enough to let me move with my dad half way across the us because you cared about what i wanted. you were brave rnough to want me happy even if you werent. Your brave because you care for and help people.
You taught me to do the same no matter what others say or think u taught me to do what was right and fair. 
And i know thats why you named me Justus... 
You honor what you stand for in my name abd just standing gor something takes a lot so yes mom you are brave in my to me.